South Dakota Counseling Association
Counselors are reminded that we still have troops overseas serving during war time. This means that families and students in schools are impacted. While we may not talk as much about this impact, we still need to be aware of the outreach efforts that should be ongoing.
Plus, we now have soldiers who have returned and they are undergoing a transition in their lives with with jobs, schooling families, or insurance. Posted below is the original information we had on our website about the military situaion that counselors can use for reference.
If you have a loved one who has been called to active duty for Operation Enduring Freedom (serving outside the USA ) or Operation Noble Eagle (serving inside the USA ), this information may provide very helpful for you.
The South Dakota Counseling Association recognizes the need for military families to have a chance to share their thoughts and feelings with caring individuals. As people undergo a transition, there may be a variety of feelings a person may feel: anger, fear, sadness, depression, grief, worry, or anxiety. It is often helpful that a person has a support group, either informally or formally. One can find solace often in visiting regularly with other military families. Or, one might want to join a support group facilitated by a professional counselor.
If you need to get into touch with a professional counselor to cope with this life transition, feel free to email sdca@svtv.com and ask for some assistance in your general location. Our Executive Director, Kelly Duncan , will attempt to put you in touch with a person in your area.
Certainly remember that you are NOT alone in this life transition. Reaching out to people would be perfectly understandable. And, do not forget that children are also vulnerable to fear because of the media coverage as they hear adults and others talk about impending war. Take time to listen to their fears and reassure them they are safe.
When communicating with your loved one who is serving in the military, it is quite important that you be positive and upbeat. Many military web sites encourage the spouse, significant other, or parent to tell your soldier how well things are going at home rather than complain about petty problems. Your soldier who is away from home is unable to help with small issues and may also feel very emotional by being away from home. Let them know you love them and miss them but are coping by turning to others for support. It may be a good idea to make a scrapbook of the family happenings or news items so you can share it with the soldier upon their return.
You may also want to check into the unit your loved one serves as there should be a family readiness program which may offer some support groups or regular meetings.
Helpful links:
http://www.military.com/deployment http://www.army.mil/usar/ http://www.army.mil/WellBeing/#FamilyPrograms http://www.sdsiou.ang.af.mil/family.html http://www.sdguard.com/ http://www.usmc-mccs.org/ http://dod.mil/mapsite/ http://www.esgr.org http://www.defenselink.mil/ra/family/toolkit/
http://www.searc.org/afes.html (state) http://www.redcross.org/services/afes/ (national)
http://www.tolerance.org/parents/kidsarticle.jsp?p=0&ar=7 http://www.pbs.org/parents/issuesadvice/war/ http://www.aboutourkids.org/articles/war.html
http://www.nmha.org/reassurance/when_to_seek_help.cfm http://www.nami.org
http://helping.apa.org/resilience/war.html (coping info) www.nasponline.org www.ncptsd.org (PTSD)
www.operationuplink.org (phone cards thru VFW)
www.un.org www.peacecorps.gov/countries www.kulturekids.org
http://www.militarychild.org/deploy.cfm
www.ksfy.com www.keloland.com www.argusleader.com www.cnn.com
Tips for Parents Supporting the Child Whose Military Parent is Deploying - http://www.hooah4health.com/environment/deployment/familymatters/tentips.htm
Providing real life solutions for successful Army living - http://www.armycommunityservice.org/home.asp?
Effects of Deployment extend beyond military - http://www.oznet.ksu.edu/news/sty/2003/military_deployment022503.htm
Deployment Support Research Institute - http://www.mfri.purdue.edu/pages/military/deployment_support.html
War with Iraq : Children's Resource Site - http://www.derry.lib.nh.us/iraqkidslinks.html
Children and Deployment - http://www.lifelines2000.org/services/deployment/index.asp?AttribID=517
7 Emotional cycles of deployment - for spouses http://www.lifelines2000.org/services/articles/20020322/115931.asp?RootID=508
"What Can I tell my Children about the War" - list of resources - http://www.newswise.com/articles/2003/3/WAR.NCF.html
What about the children? - http://usmilitary.about.com/cs/genfamily/a/familycare.htm
Children's emotions in unsettling times - http://www.lowermanhattan.info/news/children_s_emotions_in_40168.asp
Teens and War - http://www.connectingwithkids.com
How to prepare our children and stay involved in their education during deployment - https://www.militarychild.org/pdf_files/deployment.pdf